Having RA has help me become more patient. I have never enjoyed waiting on people. If I say I’ll be somewhere at a specific time, I want to be there at that time. Since I have to rely on others for transportation, that is not always possible.
For years, I rode the Trimet Lift bus everyplace I had to go. This is a van/bus dedicated to helping the elderly and others with limited mobility get around. It had a lift attachment to get wheelchairs in and out and came to your door to pick you up. The criteria for using it was that you were unable to walk to the nearest bus stop.
To get to college for my classes, I had to schedule my rides for the next week by the Thursday before. When you told them when you needed to be somewhere, or sometimes you could tell them when you wanted picked up, they would set up a ‟window” of time for you to expect them. Quite often that spanned from an hour before pick-up until 30 minutes after pick-up. At first this frustrated me. If I had to be somewhere by 10 am, I could be expected to be pick-up anywhere from 8:45-9:30.
Several times I would arrive 1 1/2 hour early and have to sit around. Sometimes the office I was going to hadn’t even opened their doors! Then I’d have to sit in the lobby and wait. Or if I was going home after a 11 am doctors appointment, it could be 2:30 or later when I would finally walk into my door. That makes for a long day! It didn’t take me long to realize that carrying a snack and a book to read was a good idea.
It took a long time for me to come to terms with the uncertainty of following a schedule when someone else has more control than you. I still get anxious and frantic at times. However, taking a deep breath and reminding myself that the world isn’t going to end if I’m late.
I’d love to hear what challenges you’ve had to overcome because of something in your life that is out of your control. Have you come to terms with it? Or are you still struggling? Leave a comment below. I appreciate you.